You've heard a lot of about us talking about mental toughness, and how to develop it here, in brief. (especially if you're subscribed to us!)
But why is it important, and how can anyone develop an iron will that will carry you through any obstacle and circumstance?
Let's find out.
This will be a more in-depth version of the one with the link above, so get your coffee ready, and let's get right on it.
What is mental toughness?
Mental toughness is a measure of individual resilience and confidence that may predict success in sport, education and the workplace. Wikipedia
Simply put, it is a measure of how persistent you are in what you want in life, even against overwhelming odds.
For example, you want to make $100 a day online and eventually replace your physical job for your online income.
Despite everyone telling you that it's impossible, and instead of getting discouraged, you keep going.
You keep hustling and fighting hard, not stopping until you hit your goal.
THAT'S mental toughness.
At it's core, there are about six different principles of developing mental toughness.
This will be a relatively short piece, but an important one.
Let's have a look.
At the core of developing mental toughness to win in life, is having a winner's mindset.
Having a winner's mindset is simple - do the best in everything you do.
In sports, it's very obvious - be number one in your field.
In the world of business, it could be overtaking your competitor in terms of business sales.
Or, if you're just starting out, mastering your technical skills to the best they can be (at least to be able to sell)
It doesn't have to be a massive task - it could also just mean cleaning your work area or room to a high standard.
A winner's mindset is also the belief that you can do everything to the best of your ability, and ensure your personal standard, or quality to your work.
Focus is a big subject for developing mental toughness and resilience.
Focus is a necessity in doing any kind of deep, focused work.
Unfortunately, as science has confirmed, everyone's attention span has severely shortened.
While we won't go into detail about the science and mechanisms of attention, it's important enough to know what we need - to have deep, focused work and uninterrupted time to do so.
Being able to handle your stress well is a key sign that you're building mental toughness the right way.
Stress when approaching a task is generally large and daunting, it helps to break things down into it's components.
You want to learn to make money online.
It's a massive undertaking - you could go in 100 different directions, and even combine them for thousands of different methods.
So the first step is simple - HOW do you want to make money online?
After figuring out HOW you want to make money online, in detail, then you can finally decide on the WHAT - the actions you'll need to take when achieving your goals.
It's a lot easier and less stressful to write 1 article a week for ten weeks, compared to say, "I need to write 10 articles ASAP!"
Aha, the thing we learned to fear the most in school - failing.
When we were in school, we were taught that failing is the biggest sin in academia, and we should all avoid it like the plague.
Unfortunately, failure was, is, and always will be one of the greatest teachers in our personal lives - failure will teach us what works and what doesn't.
Ultimately, failure will be the only tool we have that will guide us well - if we run and adset that doesn't perform well, it's a 'failure' - but in that respect, it also teaches us that this particular combination of text and image for running our ads is not effective, and we should try a variation, or a new set.
So, use failure as a teacher and guide, not as a crutch for admitting defeat.
Failure is THE mental toughness coach.
Similar to the winner's mindset above, the fastest way to increase your mental fortitude is simply to always do things to the limit you can.
Running 2 miles? try your best and hit 3 miles instead.
Wrote an article a week? Try to expand your limit by writing two.
Limits were always meant to be surpassed and broken - don't let limits be exactly that - limit you from fulfilling your goals and living your life.
Preparedness is simply a term for being prepared - Planning your weekly to-dos, tied in with your available energy and time you can afford to allocate.
As they say in the army - Proper Planning Prevents Piss Poor Performance.
FORGIVENESS AND COMPROMISE
There will often be times where life gets in the way of doing the work that matters to you - crappy internet, some bad things happen to friends and family, debt, etc.
As much as we plan and prepare (from the above), it's always good to be able to be flexible and give yourself some time off to handle things that come your way.
It's not always your fault that your internet got cut during a typhoon - it got cut for everyone.
It's also not your fault if someone you love got into an accident or a serious medical condition - you can only react and respond the best you can.
Some times, it gets extremely tiring during your day job, and you've run out of steam to do the work.
While this can be a measure of the amount of mental fortitude you have, it can also signal that something else in your life needs changing - maybe you can complete your personal work in the office if you're stuck there.
Or perhaps the combined stress of your day job AND your side hustle is burning you out.
In that case, take a day or so off, and replan your week ahead - one with slightly more downtime.
Speaking from personal experience - working yourself to exhaustion with no downtime will lead to a very bad burnout that can last for weeks, or months of dead time.
You DO NOT want that. Trust me.
Sometimes you have to compromise as well - maybe you've been working so hard, that your time with your loved ones is reduced, and it puts a strain on your relationship.
Sometimes, it's better to rethink the plan and compromise, rather than ploughing through all the time.
The trick here is to know when to do what 🙂
These are the six methods for developing mental toughness.
Use these in conjunction with the principles in the other article "How to get what you want" to really maximize the effect!
Tough times don't last, but tough people do. - Robert H. Schuller